The stories that each couple share with me are important. Each one of my couples have something special and unique about the way they met, the proposal and their families. And every couple, together, hold memories and meaning with something. And anything that holds meaning, is important to me.
Every. Little. Thing.
Before Kayne’s Opa and Oma (grandparents) left the wedding, Kayne and Kara asked the couple who had been married for over 60 years, what their secret to a long life together was. Opa said, “You will have troubles. The trick is to work it out. Talk about it. Never go to bed angry. Love each other and work together. Every marriage has problems and the secret is to never give up.”.
Kayne’s grandparents have been married for over 60 years and they didn’t have their wedding until 10 years ago. They got married over telegram and their one tradition was, “You are now married, please have a minute of silence”.
Traditions aren’t the secret to a marriage. Traditions aren’t what makes your wedding day perfect. A white dress and a big cake isn’t what your wedding is about. What matters, is that you celebrate your love for each other. You have fun. You dance with your parents. Your grandparents and if possible, your great grandparents. You hug everyone you can, especially those that travelled far to see you. When will you see these people again? Will you have the chance to dance with your grandparents again?
The most important thing on your wedding day, are the memories you make with the people you love the most.
Kayne and Kara had a surprise wedding. No one knew they were getting married except their parents. All of their friends thought it was an engagement party. It was awesome. It was fun. And everyone will remember this day.
You can also find their engagement session published on Polka Dot Bride.
Audio: Incompetech.com – Parting of the Ways, Part 2